I can hardly believe that one whole year has passed since we saw our Maelin for the very first time...I vividly remember sitting in the waiting area at the Civil Affairs Office in Chongqing. We didn't wait long before we saw an adult come around the corner with two little girls. When the first little one rounded the corner and came into view, we weren't sure if it was YuFeng or not. But as soon as the second little girl walked in the room, we knew SHE was our baby! I have a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes just thinking about that first moment...i got down on my knees near her and said, "Hi, baby!" She was unsure of us (and Jim says she had a couple of silent tears but i don't remember that), but the van driver who brought her in kept telling her that we were her new Mama and Baba. We opened her backpack and gave her a baby doll out of it. After a few minutes she also got a sucker out of the backpack, and that was an ice breaker! She let us hold her, and i remember being surprised at how BIG she was!
What she must have been thinking those first few moments...i can't even fathom. Now that i know her and love her so dearly, i can't imagine how she must have felt, having just been taken away from the only parents she ever knew. I hope they tried to explain it to her. I hope they tried to prepare her for the new family she would meet.
Our time in China was busy and exciting, but we all got sick two days before traveling home. Those first few weeks at home were really difficult for me. We were sick, we were jet lagged, our sleep schedule was on China time (12 hrs difference), and she was grieving for her foster parents. The first day Jim went back to work, i panicked! What was i going to do for 9 hours at home alone with Maelin? The time crept by as we played with play-doh, played dress-up, looked at books (although she didn't enjoy this at all in the beginning), took baths (because she DID enjoy that!) and waited for Baba to come home. I must have looked at my watch 100 times a day. I was sooo exhausted... and quite honestly, i missed having a life of my own. I missed reading books and taking naps and going out with my husband and scrapbooking with my friends. My time was not mine anymore, and that was hard during those first months.
Fast forward 365 days...what a difference! Maelin has become such an integral part of our little family that we can't fathom life without her...she is very attached to her 'new' Mama and Baba and no longer grieves for her first family. We often talk about the adoption journey: Mama and Baba were sad because we were home alone with no MaeMae (i don't mention that i used to read books and take naps - LOL!), so we flew to China to pick her up! We also talk about 'other' mama and baba, who took care of MaeMae while she was waiting for us to come and get her. We say that they loved her very much. Academically, she's making tons of progress in her first year of preschool at the Michigan School for the Deaf -- she counts to 20 (in both speech and sign), she recognizes 23 capital letters of the alphabet, tries to sing the ABC song (my favorite part is, "dubba-lou, eck, y, deeeee!"), and has an expressive sign vocabulary of about 400 signs.
Tonight the three of us drove to our homestudy agency in Bingham Farms for our final post-placement visit with social worker Lorie (Leslie stayed in the dorm). Afterward, we went out for a celebration dinner at Joe's Crab Shack in Auburn Hills. We kept telling Maelin, "Happy One Year!"
Thanks for reading, and thanks for staying with us during this incredible journey!
Much love,
Mama, Baba, Leslie and Maelin
